Emotional Mastery

Every creature on Earth is governed by Emotion. Call it instinct if you like, but our urges to seek pleasure and avoid pain are all based on how we "Feel." 

If you are reading this then you are probably Human. Congratulations! You are a memeber of the only species on earth that has the ability to out think our emotions. 

Lets look at this from two angles: I have a dog that has, to put it lightly, some anxiety around meal times. She was abused before coming to us and this behaviour is rooted in the past. Unfortunately for dogs they are unable to contimplate their situations logically and therefore become slaves to their emotions. When they feel Fear, no matter how irrational it may seem, they act afraid. 

Humans on the other hand have the "ability" to consider our situations logically. Most of us are still learning to do this because we are still Emotional Beings at our core and every situation we encounter comes with it's own unique flair of emotions. Once we feel an emotion we then have a choice: Let that emotion control our thoughts or manage our thoughts to become the masters of our emotions. 

The good-news bad-news here is that we can all learn to become Emotional Masters but, much like the first creatures that walked on land, it doesn't come easily. The first creatures to walk on land had to learn to walk before they could run and they probably fell down a lot. The same is true for us, we are the species that is taking the first steps into Emotional Mastery and it should come as no surprize that we are going to experience some bumps along the way. 

This is not a journey for the faint of heart. It takes even more courage than the first creature to rise up out of the ocean and walk on land. That little creature was only seeking food. Since the reward for walking on land was tangible, these first creatures on land could go back to their skeptical friends in the ocean with evidence of how great life is above the water. The reward for Emotional Mastery however is "food for the soul." Though invisible it has the ability to fuel Joy, Love, Peace, Passion, Wisdom, Compassion, Forgiveness, and all the wonderful emotions that make life worth living. This reward is far greater than food and personally I'd rather be happy and hungry, than full and miserable. 

So how do we do this? How do we learn to become Emotional Masters? 

Step one: "Seek first to understand, BEFORE you are understood." 

Seeing things from others point of view helps us recognize emotions in others which gives us knowledge about ourselves. At the end of the day we are not all that dissimilar so you can learn a lot about yourself by understanding others. Understanding is also the first step towards Connection. 

So what are you waiting for? Get out there and put yourself in someone elses shoes. Make the choice to practice it and practice it. The rewards are far greater than we even realize. 

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